Today I had some feedback from kind of a job interview thing, and gosh it was HARSH. He was talking about my lack of profissionalism and lack of maturity, and I could only hear it all and nod. I'm not saying that ideally a person should be able to speak up. Don't. Your senior is speaking from his experience and ideals which are always valuable, and people need time to process information and come up with a resolution. I think he nailed quite well some stuff he said about me, but values differ from person to person.
It's not the first time I'm called immature. Apparently my idea of maturity is different from everyone else. I think most people see mature as, mainly, hardworking, but also with good professional and social conduct. I see maturity as someone who is very emotionally intelligent, someone that can make the right decisions in life for himself and others, someone that learns from errors and really ponders on the subjects that affect him.
Anyone will say that being a hardworking person will lead you to success. Most times it will. I think hardworking is a good quality. But if you look at it from a especific perspective, it may not be a good quality. Being a hardworker won't always make you happy. Money isn't as closely related to happiness as people think. There is research that was done to back up this information.
So I did some thinking and I ended up disagreeing with a lot of what he said, and I'll have to think carefully if I want to approach him and talk about it. In thruth I don't even think the problem with my interview thing was a maturity or a hardworking problem, even though I talked about it. I think it partially is, but not significantly so.
Anyone have any stories?
Interesting post, Pedro. It's true, the view from the upper echelons of any organization looking down tends to differ from the views of those lower on the food chain looking up. As someone who has gotten a lot of feedback i didn't want to hear, I can relate.
ReplyDeleteOrganizations...business, government, military or non-profit all have one thing in common. Their principle agenda is about the organization, not we who comprise it. When they talk about "the company's best interests," we need to recognize going in they probably aren't talking about us personally.
Organizational success & personal fulfillment are not the same thing. Only you can decide whether what the company's goals are aligned ethically with your principles. If the answer is yes, you still have another question to answer. That question is whether you can find personal fulfillment within the framework of what the company has in mind for you. If the answer is no, you have three choices. Maneuver into a situation in which you CAN find fulfillment, continue to work for them but seek personal fulfillment outside the company, or move on.
Sad but true...it's the choice we all face. Hope you're able to reconcile.
Best wishes,
Dirk
Omg, a post. And from so long ago. I thought nobody was reading these stuff.
ReplyDeleteHey Dirk, thanks for the words. The thing that happened to me in the company certainly made me think, but further on as I thought more about it, I got him. He was right. I'm still uncertain on how he was able to judge me that way, but he was right.
I feel so unfit for these company jobs, which is why I need to step up my writing.
Thanks again for the post, I appreciate it.